dealing with difficult people: making lifes people challenges easier

difficult people are every where

some places worse than others but most people have that one difficult person that makes their life difficult at work, on the road, when your trying to enjoy your self etc.

so what do you do about these people


avoid them- difficult people fade away when you avoid them. for example if you have a hard time with your boss get a different job and resign before major problems arise. if you think for one moment that you may in the future have a standoff with a difficult person get the hell out of the situation as fast as possible

stand up to them- this can be especially effective where people are consistently and systematically knocking you down in any situation merely pretending to be tough can make these people fade away like flies. people often bully people acting out against their own insecurities and shortcommings

negociate with them oftentimes in the workplace etc people dont stick up for their self and point of view because they dont want to be confrontative which is a big mistake be strong and you will see the influence at work grow and if you have a job where being strong is not an option get a different job that gives you the opportunity to be your own person

use the system against them the system for the most part hurts us all but there is no reason to negociate your place and use authorities, and the power of the system against people it may feel sleezy but these people are bullying up on you who cares really


many times no matter what you do things wont change

get over it and leave with a perspective. for example that you will never hang with certain people ever again or go places ever again because they are lame loosers fakes and phonies, empower your self in this way by not passively letting bullies get the best of you rather back talk their systematic bullying and come out the bettar person


dont take life too seriously

society is quick to categorize us and fit us into the mold it wants us to be in and it doesnt have to be that way find your indivduality creativity and your own happiness your your own person free in your soul if not in society

strike a balance

balance is a key to living a fullfilling life. for example i live in an exciting city where shure we work our tails off but that doesnt mean i dont party have a good time, leave the city and do a nature walk and hit up the country organic fruit stands, festivals, fairs, cafes, events, beaches, what have you i dont make my work my life rather i make my life my work. nothing is more rewarding than working at things you love and its never a waste of time energy or capital life is short so attack it live it up and enjoy it

live in the present

the future and past are often full of pain, misery, big successes, big failures, and what have you or so you percieve focus on the present its all you got and get that great feeling in your soul about it, then if you want to think of the future think of it in terms of the happiness of the present

your not alone

whoever you are there are billions of people who like you and want to be your friend be agressive and meet new people, mates, friends whatever, dont let your thoughts or society limit you its bettar to be a lonely person with alot of friends than a delusional person that thinks they can live in a vacuum

celebrate what you have and not what others have or what you dont have your self

your life is richer than you think just open your eyes to the various gifts given to you especially the free ones like friends, air, sun , nature, great cities, great towns, exploration abroad, in country, and around your area

view lifes challenges in terms of what you will get out of them

a friend of mine told me every thing happens for a reason and that he follows the path of greatest pleasure i take alot from that in that i view challenges more as games with a meaningful outcome reguardless of what happens for example im unemployed at that moment yet im getting closer to find out what i really love and what i should do with my life i dont blame anything and take the time to enjoy my life and try my hand in a few businesses im trying to get going so dont limit your self to success because if you do success will diminish its returns and be meaningless within a week bob dylan said you cant have success without failure and without failure success means nothing to you at all. im pretty shure that saying has been around forever and is passed on but is very inspiring to say the least. i see in it the ying and yang qualities present in everything in life



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